A highly sensitive person (HSP) experiences the world differently than others. You may even hear people calling you an “old soul”. Here are the signs of a highly sensitive person and welcome to the HSP club!

Highly Sensitive Person signs

What is a Highly Sensitive Person?

Highly sensitive people (HSPs) is a term to describe a group of people whose brain processes information differently in comparison to others in the areas of emotions, thoughts and sensory. HSP people are more physically and emotionally sensitive than others, which often leaves them being marked by others as being “too sensitive”, but being an HSP is not a bad thing. People with this personality trait have more creativity, empathy and the ability to notice things that others cannot. However, like all personality with negative sides, an HSP person can often feel overwhelmed or stressed especially under pressure or from over thinking.

How Highly Sensitive People Came About?

It is biological and influenced by the way you were raised or based on your life experiences.

How Do You Know If You’re a Highly Sensitive Person?

An HSP person may enjoy a slow morning or being in the countryside with a beautiful view over concerts or being in the city.

Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person

  • Cannot stand any violence or watch violent shows as that it stays on your mind.
  • You can imagine pain and may even feel lightheaded.
  • You never get exhausted spending time with yourself, but feel exhausted after 1 hour with other people.
  • Time pressure makes you anxious.
  • Withdraw often from social situations.
  • You think deeply and may even overthink.
  • A WHY seeker.Horrible pain tolerance.Have been called an old soul.
  • Your life seems different than other people’s.
  • You get hangry easily.
  • Cannot stand conflict.
  • Criticism is hard to swallow.
  • Deeply moved by beauty.
  • You beat yourself up if you don’t meet people’s expectations.
  • Fear or failure, self-doubt and obsessed about plans.
  • Ways to Relax As A Highly Sensitive Person

    1. Set time aside to practice mindfulness by focusing on your five senses

    If your senses are being attacked (feeling overwhelmed or anxious), because they are being overstimulated (like when your teacher throws a lot of new information at you all at once!) one of the best way is to find a place to relief and regather your five senses. (I like to go to a quiet room and just do deep and slow breathing, you can also focus your eyes on something beautiful that help bring you feeling peace, or listen to soothing music!)

    By doing these little things, it will help draw your attention away from whatever is overwhelming you. Of course, location can change base on where you are, but I always like to find a safe place to find my “sanctuary”. For example, if you are still in school, you can find a restroom, a room or rooftop where you know has very low human traffic and just hang out in there until you find your center and this goes the same for workplace. (Yes, I know public bathrooms is hardly a “sanctuary” but with some peaceful music and perfume, it should work, at least for awhile!

    2. Check in with yourself and attend to your needs.

    It is important to check in with yourself by asking how you are feeling throughout the body. Are you feeling tension in your shoulder? Heavy breathing and fast heart beats?

    You can also check in with yourself emotionally and do a quick journaling to write down answers to why and how you are feeling and perhaps to find out the cause of your worry or anxiousness.

    Lastly, you can also treat yourself to a little break. This is the time to stretch, take a sip of tea or coffee and have a power snack.

    3. Do things that relaxes you.

    Like mentioned above, find a space and do some things to help yourself relax and unwind from your worries and anxiousness. It could be as simple as watching your favorite show (If you need K-drama recs, hit me up!), spending time with close friends and family, make your favorite meal, taking a walk, practice mindfulness, breathing exercise, and meditation.

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    4. Sip on tea that relaxes you

    If you are a tea drinker, then try my Tame the Tension Tea recipe, and if you are not a tea drinker I still recommend you to give it a try!

    • 2 cups of water
    • 1 tbsp dried chrysanthemum flowers
    • 1 tbsp honeysuckle flower
    • 1 tbsp goji berries
    • 1 tsp honey

    Bring water to boil and stir in the chrysanthemum, honeysuckle and gogi berries. Cover and simmer for 10 minutes. Strain and stir in honey and enjoy!

    Try Practice journaling with journal prompts

    At the end of the day, before going to bed set time aside for yourself to calm your mind down. Grab your journal and write down prompts that help relaxes you. Here are some prompts.

    1. What’s the situation that’s causing you to worry? (Is it work, school, relationship?)
    2. What’s the fear? (how to get work done? won’t have work done in time?)
    3. Where in your body do you feel it and how does it feel? (heart beating fast and making your feel out of breath? anxious?)
    4. Where is your breath in your body? (I can feel I am holding it in?)
    5. Is the situation recurring or familiar to me? (yes, every time I have exam coming up, I feel overwhelmed)
    6. What is making me feel this way? (Feel like I will not pass the exam and will disappoint my family and myself)
    7. When was the last time this happened to me? (A couple months ago)
    8. What did I learn from the last experience? (As long as I studied the material then I will be fine and pass the exam like I always have.)
    9. What change or action do I need to take? (I need to lighten up the pressure that I put on myself and forget about disappointing my parents, especially if I am putting in 100% into studying.)


    Being a HSP its not your fault and its not a negative thing! It’s a part of your personality, the way you were born along with the environment you grew up in.

    As an Asian growing up in Taiwan for the first 12 years of my life, I was taught to be obedient, listen to authority and correct mistakes right away or else I was going to face consequences. This has conditioned me obey and listen and trust me I have cried and had plenty of negative thoughts throughout my life from putting so much pressure on myself, wishing I was learning and achieving things faster, or not wanting to disappoint myself. But I believe that as long as you are aware of it, you can train your brain to unlearn and change it! (if you want to for yourself and not others!)And I applaud you for being honest with yourself, accepting the way you are and for just learning about yourself! I would love to connect with more HSP, so if you are one, connect with me on instagram at @brainbeautybody!

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